Future Marriage University

SINGLE TALK & SESSION DESCRIPTIONS

How Marriage Can Be More Fun Than A Nudist Colony
Most singles don’t seriously consider joining a nudist colony, but many aspire to a image of the swinging single life that’s not what it’s cracked up to be. But what if God intended marriage to be even more fun and fulfilling than Sex and the City or Friends? In fact, what if God actually custom designed marriage to satisfy our ultimate need for human companionship? In this Single Talk we encourage you to “think bigger” when it comes to your expectations of marriage; both of its possibilities and the effort necessary to achieve them.

Friends Don't Let Friends Date Dumb
Our culture tells us not to interfere in the love lives of people we know. Wonder if that has anything to do with a 50% divorce rate? Further, because our contemporary mores are so unmoored from a Biblical worldview most singles don’t know the difference between smart dating and dumb dating. This Single Talk is a call to smart dating that leads to healthy relationships – romantic and plutonic.

Do You Have A License To Date?
Before you can legally drive a car you have to demonstrate comprehension of essential rules of the road and command of required driving skills. Sadly, In spite of these prerequisites to obtaining a driver’s license, motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death for teenagers. Dating may not be as physically perilous, but it is fraught with relational and emotional hazards… and no license is required. In this Single Talk, we share what essential rules and required skills you should grasp before dating or courtship.

Who’s Afraid Of The Big Bad Vows?
Many singles are afraid of marriage… and for good reason! Many marriages end in divorce and many more linger on in disappointment and drudgery. But the oldest of the three little pigs didn’t have to fear the big bad wolf because he built his home with the right materials. And in this Single Talk, we share how to follow his lead when it comes to laying the foundation for your future marriage; avoiding the temptation to build with straw or sticks and instead building with brick.

TOP10 Marriage Tips For Smart Singles
This was written as the closing talk from our original 14-wk Marriage Ed class, so it’s meant to distill the key concepts we really want students to take with them. In this Single Talk we touch on three “learns,” three “gets,” two “makes,” and two “lets.” It’s a great primer to ten major growth areas you should be honing now while you’re still single, before you even think of getting married. It covers a wide spectrum of material, so it’s kind of like drinking from a fire hose, but if you walk away impacted by even one of the tips, it will be worth it.

The One Thing Every College Student Should Know About Marriage
In college, you’re focused almost exclusively on your future career. In this Single Talk we reveal how this career focus could jeopardize the success of your future marriage. In fact, we’ll actually sit in on a job interview where the interviewee is as prepared as most couples are at the alter. We then share a critical change in perspective that can set you on the road to a meaningful, fulfilling future marriage.

What Does God’s Voice Sound Like?
A thought pops into your head – did it come from God, yourself or your TV dinner? Every believer wants to know God’s will as they contemplate marriage, but many Christians are in doubt about discerning God’s will about anything. In this session we illuminate how to confidently discern God’s will through His word, his church, prayer and circumstances… and we underline the importance of using all four means of discernment before moving forward with life-altering decisions like marriage.

This session is included in the Know How To Know singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

How To Fool-proof Your Dating Life
Ever since King Solomon (and even before), wise, blessed followers of God have had earthly lovers turn their hearts far away from their first love. You don’t want that to be you, but spiritual compatibility is far more than just finding a fellow believer. You have to get past what someone says they are and find out who they really are! In this session we share how to discern what prospective partners believe and treasure and where they ultimately derive their perspective and strength.

This session is included in the Know How To Know singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

Are They “The One?”
If only this question really could be answered in one session of one seminar. Still, we introduce a critical shift in perspective when it comes to discerning God’s will in marriage (or any other endeavor). Bottom line: seeking God’s will isn’t enough, because it’s not ultimately God’s will to give you His will. He has something infinitely greater to give you and we talk about that in this session. In the end, the question, “Are they ‘The One,’” becomes a less important query with a more obvious answer.

This session is included in the Know How To Know singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

When To Say When
Once you find the person of your dreams, when do you get married: immediately lest you “burn,” or do you wait for better weather in the Spring, or until you finish school, get your career established or get out of debt? Using these concerns as a backdrop, we look at time itself and learn to view it as God’s gift to us; the context he created for us to experience Him, grow in Him… and wait… on… Him. This perspective can make both waiting for “that special someone” and waiting for the wedding date a faith-building and life-giving experience.

This session is included in the Know How To Know singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

The Single Most Important Relational Skill
Forgiveness – it’s the single most important relational skill for any long-term relationship. If you can’t forgive your spouse – or if you can’t ask for forgiveness – you won’t enjoy marriage... not unless your spouse is perfect. In this session we present five Biblical realities that can help you forgive those who have hurt you in the past… and prepare you for a marital relationship characterized by the spirit of reconciliation. For more information you can check out our latest book, Forgiveness 101.

This session is included in the Relational Fitness Training singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

I’m OK. You’re obnoxious.
Baptist or Catholic? Republican or Democrat? Classical or country? Male or female? Why are we so different from one another? Is it God’s design or a result of the fall? In this session, we take a look at Gods’ creation, His church, His heaven, and even his very nature to figure out what to make of the diversity that divides us. We show how learning to accept the peculiarities of those in your life right now can prepare you to accept the uniqueness of your future mate.

This session is included in the Relational Fitness Training singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

What’s Driving Your Sex Drive?
You’ve heard God designed sex only for marriage… and that’s well and good, but that leaves Christian singles believing that if they can just make it to the marriage bed all their sexual frustrations will end and their fantasies will be fulfilled. Unfortunately, sex turns out more complicated than anticipated and extra-marital temptation winds up every bit the demon that pre-marital temptation once was. Why is that?!? In this session, we tell you what you probably never heard in sex-ed – that your sex drive is driven by something far more powerful than raging hormones and the pursuit of pleasure. And you’ll find that understanding these hidden motives is essential to getting a handle on your sexuality… whether you’re trying to exercise self-control in singleness or after the marriage bed is yours.

This session is included in the Relational Fitness Training singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

How To Beat Stress In Four Tough Steps
Life isn’t easy… single or married, but there’s a difference between going through crises and living in a state of crisis. And though crises are lonely when you’re single, they’re a whole lot more complicated when you’re married. That’s why singleness is an ideal time to learn what roll passion, perspective, priorities and planning play in empowering you to live the life God intended for you and your future marriage.

This session is included in the Relational Fitness Training singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

Find “That Special Someone”
Before you find the love of your life, you really should seek out another “special someone.” In this session we encourage you to first find an accountability partner or mentor before you find your spouse. Dynamic relationships with other believers of the same sex give you the opportunity to develop healthy vulnerability; teaching you more about yourself and God. You’re going to want to know both really well before you get married. And even after marriage, you will benefit immensely from the strength and wisdom you can draw from close Godly friends. We encourage you to make those friends now… before you take on the calling of marriage.

This session is included in the Relational Fitness Training singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

What Marriage Vows Can’t Vow
You don’t go to a Mexican Restaurant for sushi and you don’t go bear hunting with dynomite. Bottom line: if you expect marriage to deliver something it can’t you’re going to find married life just as disappointing as the sushi lover in the sombrero or as terrifying as the hunter running for his life, leaving his explosives behind. In this session, we dispel the major marriage misconceptions that have set up countless marriages for failure, helping you prepare for success.

This session is included in the Demystifying the M-word singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

What Does God Want From You?
Setting the wrong expectations can kill your marriage before it begins, but the right ones can set your marriage up for tremendous success. What are the RIGHT expectations for marriage? Well, they’re not his… and they’re not hers. They’re God’s expectations. In this session, we reveal the three expectations God has for us in all of our relationships; three principles that have revolutionized our own relationships with family, friends, strangers, our children… and especially each other.

This session is included in the Demystifying the M-word singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

How Do Two Become One?
The answer is three; namely a third entity that bonds the two together. Of course, that third entity is supposed to be God, but many people (even Christians) look to almost anything else to hold their marriage together. In this session we address the reasons why that is and we highlight the importance of building your trust in God before moving forward in the trust-relationship of marriage.

This session is included in the Demystifying the M-word singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

What’s Marriage Suppose To Look Like?
Almost everyone comes from home environments they want to improve upon and even those few who idolize their parents often don’t have the foggiest idea what made their marriage successful. Some enter marriage with very defined marital rolls. Others just think it’s all going to work out in the end. In this session, we try to take some of the mystery out of what makes a marriage work. We highlight the beauty of the equally valuable and entirely unique needs and rolls of husband and wife. We don’t try to defend a specific family model, but instead uphold clearly defined Biblical truths.

This session is included in the Demystifying the M-word singles seminar and the Besides Sex & Salvation singles conference.

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